1. When you’re in lust, you dress to the NINES. Maybe even the TENS.
Obviously, there’s no harm in trying to look good for your significant other, especially when you’re first courting each other. But we all know dressing (and looking) like you’re going to Fashion Week each time you step out for a date takes a sh*t-ton of effort, not to mention money!
When you’re in love, you might forget to wear pants.
Are you wearing a shirt? Check. Shoes? Check. Pants? Oops! On those exciting Friday nights where you end up pacing the aisles of Costco to stock up on frozen pizzas and Lucky Charms cereal, comfort = love.
2. When you’re in lust, you look past their foolishness.
Things are so hot & heavy, it’s easy to look past minor “annoyances” (that laugh, that money problem, that MOTHER) that may turn into larger issues down the road.
When you’re in love, you point out their mistakes.
You love them, which is why you want them to be a better person. And if they love you, they’ll accept the (constructive) criticism and try to be a better person not just for you but for themselves, too.
3. When you’re in lust, you say what they want to hear.
You constantly aim to please. When they ask you a question, you’re more apt to reply with a “safe” answer, even though it might not fully express how you feel. (You figure you’ll get to that later, right?)
When you’re in love, you keep it real.
You don’t agree with everything they’re saying and you clearly state that. Having different views and opinions from your significant other doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not a good match; it just means that SHOCKER: You’re different people. And that’s okay. Healthy debate is good and normal and helpful at seeing things from another perspective.
4. When you’re in lust, the person you’re with is a Greek God/Goddess.
Or rather, try this analogy: a perfectly shaped cookie with no dents or chipped corners. But hate to break-it-to-you: even perfect-looking cookies have burnt sides (even if they’re not visible at first).
When you’re in love, they’re more like a Greek God/Goddess statue missing it’s arm.
Perfectly imperfect, just like you! Pretending to be anything other than that is exhausting and oh: A LIE.
5. When you’re in lust, you don’t really know them.
Sure, you know their favorite color is blue and their favorite food is macaroni and cheese. But that’s surface level-stuff. You haven’t dug down deep — and girl, that tunnel is LONG.
When you’re in love, you know small insignificant details.
Their favorite color is blue because when they were little, it was their mother’s favorite color to dress them up in. Their favorite food is mac & cheese because it’s the comfort food their Grandma always made them when they went to visit.
These small, seemingly insignificant details are intimate parts of their past and who they are. And you know all these little, beautiful factoids because you took the time to really get to know them — and better even, you still want to know more.
Source: Your Tango